Why ‘Why’ Is The Least Helpful Interrogative Question
Why ‘why’ is the least helpful interrogative question.
Someone asked me ‘why did you choose that’. I instantly found myself defending my choice, even though it wasn’t that big a deal, and they were not being aggressive with the question.
Whilst, I quickly caught myself. It is useful to remember that the ‘why’ interrogative can trigger us; it can be felt linked to our identity. As such we can become defensive and feel that we are personally under attack. For that reason, when having conversations with colleagues and families, try reframing questions.
Other helpful questions can begin with What, Where, When, How or Who interrogatives instead. If it impacts you, you can share how it does at the same time.
Finally, whilst at times asking ‘why; can be powerful. You may also begin to notice how ‘why’ questions can often be less helpful when talking to yourself. Often bringing out the inner critic without adding value.
What, Where, When, How or Who…
See if you notice the difference!
Is there a question that raises your hackles, or do you have a go to question, that gives you great answers or extra motivation?
About Simona Hamblet
Simona is a specialist coach & hypnotherapist, working with lawyers & helping them create the firms & lives that they want. Simona also has over 20 years of experience as an employment solicitor & partner in a dual-office law firm (focusing on staff development & business growth). Simona works with partners, law firm owners, or other lawyers, who want to fall back in love with their firms again. Helping partners have more time, including dedicated space for business development, strengthen their teams, quieten the inner critic, manage a thriving firm, and have more playtime! Simona is a qualified coach, NLP practitioner, and hypnotherapist working with lawyers for the past six years. Simona also has over 20 years of experience as an employment solicitor & partner in a dual-office law firm (focusing on staff development & business growth).